I won’t pretend to be an expert on marriage or even to have lots of experience in it. Mr. B and I have only been married for a year and a half. Sometimes its been hard, but, mostly it is just awesome. I love being married. We talked a lot and did a lot of preparation before we were wed. I took three different marriage prep classes at BYU, one was from a religious perspective to count as a religion credit, one was from a secular perspective for my major, and the third was an extra free mini-course that BYU offered for engaged couples. Mr. B took the last one with me. It had strong religious undertones (it’s BYU y’all) but, mostly focused on the day to day of actual marriage. I think that class helped us the most but, that might have been because we took it together. I highly recommend taking a marriage preparation class together. It was so fun and a huge help. Anyways, as you can tell we did a lot of preparation and really focused on giving ourselves a solid start beyond just our love for each other.
One of the things we decided back during our engagement period was a funny little rule that I’d never heard of anyone doing before. This rule is that there is one chore we could choose that we didn’t have to do for the entirety of our marriage. I chose never taking out the trash and Mr. B chose never doing the dishes. In full disclosure, we haven’t exactly followed this. I take out the bathroom trash a couple of times and Mr. B has done a couple of dishes. Since I’ve been pregnant, he’s washed all the Tupperware containers that we’ve accidentally let get moldy and he also did the dishes three times during my first trimester when I could not stand the smell.
However, I think the rule has been very helpful mostly because we knew what each others least favorite chore was from the get go. I think the whole point of the rule is that it has really helped us be more aware of what the other hates doing and, in turn, realizing best where we can serve one another.
How did you prepare for your marriage?
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